I knew Yasmin Mogahed from her quotes on Instagram. She’s a muslim scholar, based in the US. Her background is psychology, and her speciality in personal development & spirituality. Here are several quotes from Yasmin Mogahed:
Let me start with expressing how well she knows about the main problem of the ummah. She discussed about the entrapment in life, make the same repeated pattern of heartbreak and disappointments. This book is about freeing our heart from slavery of this dunya.
I’m not gonna lie, this book awaken my heart and gives new perfective on love, loss, happiness and pain. She said herself, this book is a manual of how to protect our most prized possession: the heart.
3 things that i learned from this book:
1.She said in the book, she realized that she has attachments. She was dependent on her relationship to fulfill her needs and allow those relationship to define her happiness, sadness, security, and even her self-worth. Those attachments mean that she was expecting this life to be what it is not: perfect.
The mistake is not in having expectations. The problem was in “where” she was placing those expectation and hope. There is only one place where we can lay our dependencies: God.
If we do this, we become unbreakable, because your hand-hold is unbreakable. We’ll become unconquerable, because our supporter can never be conquered. And we will never become empty, because your source of fulfillment is unending and never diminished.
2.Anytime we are in love, it becomes almost impossible to get over that love— until you are able to find in love with something greater. Imagine this dunya as a toy car, we love it so much that when we’re separated from it, we’re struggling.
We should realize the difference between “toy car” (dunya) and real car (afterlife). We can’t let go of that toy car because we don’t see the real car. The more we can see the “real thing” the easier it becomes to give up the “unreal thing”– when necessary.
So, in letting go, the answer lies in love. We should fall in love with something greater. Fall in love with the Real thing.
3.Think of the hardship in life as a siren. The siren is an indication and a warning that something harmful is coming. If we heard it, we naturally panic. But what happens when it’s just a drill to see how we react?
This is exactly what Allah (swt) tell us about this life. It is going to feel very real, sometimes scare us. However, this “drill” is predicted (see Quran, 3:186 & 2:214), we are warned, so we shouldn’t be panic or distressed. But we do act. Moreover, he gives us the exact recipe for succeeding in them: Sabr & Taqwa.
This is one of the reason why i love this book, she reminds us how great Allah is, for instance:
She’s talking about this ayah. In this verse, Allah (swt) begins by showing us that he knows our struggles, but he is closer than our jugular vein. The jugular vein is the most important vein that brings blood to the heart. If severed, we die almost immediately. But Allah (swt) is closer. So it means, Allah (swt) is closer than our own life, our own self! *cry
After reading her book, it shows me a glimpse of clarity on where I should put my focus on. The main point of this book is, we should’t be a prisoner to this dunya anymore, no longer faithful subject standing before the false throne. We should reclaim our hearts, to where it belongs: the One who created us.